If you haven’t watched the old movie Secretary starring James Spader and Maggie Gyllenhaal or more recently, Shades of Grey, try them for some good sexy fun.
While both of those movies have some BDSM, people who like spanking don’t necessarily enjoy BDSM. Some just like the spanking and the submission turns them on. No handcuffs or collars thank you.
Safe, sane, and consensual spanking play is of the utmost importance among those in the spanking community. Ultimately, you must trust the partner you ‘play’ with and must agree on what you are both comfortable with. It is also highly recommended that you agree on a ‘safe word’. Once your partner says this word, play must stop. Or, you can do it a slightly different way. Many use ‘green light, yellow light, red light’. Green means continue, yellow means it is hurting a bit too much so go lighter, and red means stop immediately. During spanking role play, such as boss/employee, cop/speeder, college professor/student, dominant husband/submissive wife, someone’s pretend language might be confused with real language so a safe word protects both partners.
Along with the “it hurts so good” aspect of spanking, is the fantasy of submission. Many women and men that have jobs where they are the authority figure, often report that the feeling of submission in the bedroom, allows them to let themselves go and take a break from being in charge for a change. Others, who would never even consider being submissive in real life, love the fantasy of submission because they don’t really have to do it. It’s just a game in the bedroom.
Some feel they are ‘hard wired’ to enjoy spanking and some give it a try for a partner and end up loving it. If you are looking to spice up your sex life, bend over and give spanking a try. It is quite delicious to hear “I’d like to see you in my office young lady” or “You’ve been a naughty boy, haven’t you?”
For more ideas on how to heat things up in the bedroom, please contact us. Sex is fun, so, like the saying says, “Just Do It!”