Sex may be one of the most natural and instinctive of bodily functions, but it’s also fraught with complications.
In a perfect world, sex would be about doing what comes naturally and having a wonderful time. But we know the world isn’t perfect, and people come with baggage.
As such, physical, emotional, and external influences may all compromise sexual satisfaction.
Here are four common factors that affect sexual satisfaction, and some simple ideas for addressing them.
An increase in stress, either at home or at work, can cause problems in the bedroom. Emotional stress can manifest itself physically. Men may not be able to achieve or maintain an erection, and women may find it difficult to “get in the mood”. Fatigue often accompanies stress, so you may feel too tired to try.
The sexual frustration that results from stress will build tension, which will lead to even more stress. Too much stress can lead to depression, heart disease, obesity and permanent hair loss.
Try tackling stress rather than allowing it to escalate.
Proven methods of de-stressing include exercising (walking and yoga are particularly effective), listening to your favorite music (reduces blood pressure and releases dopamine), turning off your cell phone (a proven contributor to stress), hanging out with friends (social bonding is a stress reliever), watching something funny (laughter is an endorphin releaser) and kissing (more endorphins!).
Premature ejaculation and erectile dysfunction
Premature ejaculation isn’t just the realm of overexcited teenagers. Men of all ages can suffer from premature ejaculation. Premature ejaculation often leads to emotional stress and feelings of inadequacy, which is amplified every time you try to have sex.
Premature ejaculation can be related to erectile dysfunction or it may be a separate problem.
In both cases, the first thing to do is check for any medical causes. Some prescription drugs can cause erectile dysfunction, or it may be a symptom of a physical issue, so rule those out first.
Ways to Tackle Premature Ejaculation
Kegel exercises, pelvic floor exercises for men and women developed in the 1940s by Arnold Kegel, can help delay orgasm and increase blood flow to the genital area, making it easier to achieve and maintain an erection.
The most common Kegels involve contracting and releasing the pelvic floor muscles. You can do this anywhere at any time of the day, since nobody will be able to tell what you are doing. Interrupting and resuming the flow of urine midstream can help with premature ejaculation by strengthening the pelvic floor muscles.
Improve your diet. A good diet can increase blood flow to the penis, making erections easier to obtain and sustain.
If there is no medical reason for the problem, and if Kegel exercises and diet don’t help, consider going for counseling or seeing a sex therapist.
While premature ejaculation and erectile dysfunction can have an adverse impact on your sex life, there are safe and effective treatments, so don’t let embarrassment prevent you from getting the help.
As men and women grow older, testosterone and estrogen levels diminish naturally. Though it’s popular to believe that decreased hormone levels occur in older people, persons as young as 35 can suffer from hormonal imbalances.
Causes can vary, but poor diet, lack of exercise, and stress are significant factors. Hormonal imbalances can cause fatigue, lack of libido, and depression, which all impact sexual satisfaction.
If you suspect hormones are causing the problems, check with your doctor. There are tests that can identify the cause of any hormonal imbalance. In the meantime, you can help yourself by getting enough sleep, eating a healthy diet, and trying to avoid stress.
Lack of Exercise
If you don’t get enough exercise, put that right by fitting in at least five 30-minute exercise sessions a week. Exercise rectifies hormonal imbalances, reduces stress, boosts insulin sensitivity, raises energy levels, and aids restful sleep.
Regular exercise also strengthens the heart and boosts blood circulation. That means increased blood flow to the genital area during intercourse, which makes for extra sensitivity and satisfaction. Increased sexual satisfaction could be just an exercise session away!
If you can find a way to deal with stress, add a little exercise to your daily regimen and mitigate hormonal imbalances, your sex life will be much more satisfying for yourself and your partner. In many cases, simple measures are all it takes to get your mojo working again and enjoy the sexual satisfaction you both deserve.