Owning the right vibrator can be so fulfilling, it’s a shame that these devices didn’t really enter the mainstream until Sex and the City put them on the map in the 90s. Before then, you either didn’t think to buy one or went to a seedy adult store to pick one from among a narrow selection of large, heavy units. Fifteen years have made all the difference.
Not only does every corner drugstore have a great selection of vibrators today, you get a vast range online, too. Manufacturers compete to create units made of exotic materials and in a bewildering range of shapes, sizes and power levels to suit every need. To help spread the good word about vibrators, women often throw in-home sex toy parties where every attendee touches and feels the choices available and shares advice and insight. If you’re looking for a bit of advice right now and don’t have a party to go to, here are a few things to consider before you make your first purchase.
1. The first hurdle — do you want a vibrator or a dildo?
Many women find it easier to orgasm to clitoral stimulation than to penetration. Devices that are meant for clitoral stimulation are also easier to use than ones that are designed for penetration. A vibrator, then, should be your first choice. You could graduate to a penis-shaped vibrator or dildo when you feel the need for it.
2. Determine the kind of power you need
How much power you need in your vibrator is a matter of individual preference. Some women like extreme levels of power and others prefer gentler action. In general, the older you get, the greater the power you appreciate.
The name Hitachi Magic Wand is often brought up in conversations about extremely powerful vibrators. Powerful vibrators like this one tend to require too much power to run off batteries — they need to be plugged in. If you need even more power, it could be an idea to try a massager unit. These tend to be up to any challenge.
You will usually need to go through 2 or 3 models to check out the kind of power you need before you can be sure what works for you. Noise can be something to consider, too. Typically, the more powerful a vibrator, the more buzz it makes. Higher-end models deliver power on a quiet motor, though.
3. Determine the sort of vibration that works for you
There’s more to a vibrator’s action than the power it delivers. Different vibrators deliver just about every kind of action that you could imagine — everything from tickling to buzzing and a peculiar type of motion called osculation. You can have models that vibrate in time to music, and ones that try to mimic the action of a tongue. It can be hard to know what works for you until you actually try a few models out.
4. Think about the shape
It may seem pointless that manufacturers should choose to design vibrators shaped like butterflies, eggs, rings and boomerangs. Actually, experimenting and finding the right shape can work wonders, reaching spots that no other shape does for you — it all depends on the way you’re built. Unfortunately, even you can’t really know what really works for you until you experiment.
5. Find the material that does it for you
The Hitachi Magic Wand has a vibrating head made of firm foam plastic. That kind of choice of material, though, has long been obsolete on vibrators. Modern units use exotic materials that are a treat to the senses. Latex, jelly, cyberskin and silicone are among the top choices. These materials can be as soft as a hard-boiled egg and can offer different kinds of sensory appeal. Cyberskin, just as the name suggests, realistically imitates the look and feel of human skin. While latex is very soft, it tends to be grippy. This can be a good thing or bad, depending on what you like. Jelly tends to look like the gelatinous material that gummy bears are made of and comes in a variety of fun colors, too.
Whatever material you decide on, you do want to make sure that it is non-toxic. Every major brand today has moved away from materials that contain toxic substances such as phthalates.
6. If you’re not sure which way to turn…
While most shoppers read user reviews before making a purchase of any kind, these reviews are especially important ahead of a vibrator purchase. Many reviews speak about subtle qualities that these units have. From specific kinds of vibration to the problems that people may have with various materials or textures, the nuances that user reviews detail can speak to your specific needs. User reviews can be a lifesaver when it comes to intimate products.
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