Being a Sex Surrogate is Not as Sexy as You Think

Being a Sex Surrogate is Not as Sexy as You Think

Linda Poelzl has worked for over a decade and a half as a sexual surrogate. She says she does have sex with her patients but the sex is just one part of a complex healing process. She says that:

We are not fucking our brains out all the time, but there is sex involved

People assume sex surrogate therapy is one big sex party. And clients often assume they can get a few sex lessons and then they are fine, but it’s usually more complicated than that.

She works with psychotherapists who refer patients to her. Patients can not hire a surrogate. They have to be referred by a psychotherapist who may or may not deem it necessary. So for those who think a surrogate is a legal way to pay for some nookie, they will be disappointed.

She says there’s no guarantee that you’ll get the full sexual service but there will be more than just hand holding. She charges $300 per hour which won’t be covered by any health insurance plan. Fewer people are getting into her line of work because of fear of litigation. Psychotherapists also fear liability and loss of license and often will only prescribe sessions with a sex therapist as a last resort.

Sex surrogate clients typically have problems with intimacy, confidence, communication, dating anxiety, adult virginity, sexual inhibitions, erectile dysfunction, premature ejaculation, and diseases that cause painful intercourse. Therapy can last from 4 to 6 months but many individuals can take longer to resolve their problems, particularly when they have deep seated psychological issues. The sessions start with eye contact, followed by massage and touch therapy, and then finally with sexual intercourse if it is appropriate for the client’s particular issues.

The International Professional Surrogate Association (IPSA) is the only existing organization that certifies sexual surrogate therapists. There are no laws governing what is required to become one, though certification with the IPSA requires training and abiding by a code of ethics.

People in this profession must be confident about their sexuality and appearing nude in front of clients. The successful surrogate must also have a high degree of empathy and a well developed ability to relate to others.

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